Why does this happen to me? ! ? !

So I don't know how many of you know this but my FIL had Dementia and  Alzheimer's and it sucks ass!!!

Today's adventure is as follows...

1. Wake up
2. Make coffee
3. Go potty
4. Receive a dumpster that I didn't know was coming
5. Take said FIL to (Job interview that he can't remember where)  <---should be fun

So I woke up just fine.  Slept real good.  Went and let out my kitty so he could run and play with others while I made my coffee...Coffee makes me potty so that was the next step in my day so far. 

This is where it gets interesting....

I look out of the living room window and see the dumpster guys pulling into the driveway.  Hum.. I guess that someone ordered a dumpster.  Cool!  Then I see the 'dumpster guy' walking up to my house. 

• Yes can I help you?
• I need to drop this.
• Um...ok just get it as close to the house as possible and get it out of the driveway.

Moves the dumpster so it is right up against the pile of house....

• Ok so I need you to sign for this and I need payment.
• I don't have payment, I didn't even know it was coming, let me call someone.

So I call the MIL, it goes as follows.

• Hey the dumpster guys are here, did you know about this?
• Yea I told (FIL) <---name here....where I wanted it.
• Um ok well I already had them drop it.
• No, they are going to have to move it to the area I wanted it
• Ok, let me give him the phone.

I give him the phone and walk to the house where the FIL is. I knock LOUDLY because he is also hard of hearing.  He hears and comes to the door with a stupid grin on his face and says....

• Sorry the office is closed, please come back tomorrow.
• OK, the dumpster guy is here, do you have the money for them?
• Tell them to come back tomorrow because we are closed.
• Seriously? !
• Yes, we reopen tomorrow.

OMG! WTF!  He is at the house not a business for those of you still wondering.

I walk back over and get the phone back and go back into my house.  MIL calls me back and proceeds to tell me that UIL is calling in a CC number. Not to worry about it.  ==p <--gun) (POW)

Oh LAWD!!!  So that is done.  They are gone I am chillin in my house, and there is a knock at my door.  Holy CRAP it is the FIL!!!  WHY ? ! ? !   Well let me tell ya why....

• Hey are you doing anything today?
• Um I don't know why?
• Well I need a ride into town for a job interview.
• Ok, where?
• Oh, um, damn, I don't remember....
• Ok well I guess I can.
• Ok thanks. (he walks away)

Crap!  What the hell did I just agree to? !? !  Shit!!  Damnit!!!!!!!

I shall let you know what happens later.....D
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So yeah....

I have something to blog about.....yea yea I know, it's about time....

So a while back I had another blog that I had started when I broke my leg just to talk or vent or whatever. So I had wrote about something that had happened at home...let me recap.

Bear and a friend were over and decided to walk the big dog.  They walked outside with him and the FIL was outside with his 2 puppies on one line and they pulled him over.  He proceeded to yell at Bear and her friend and then the MIL came out to yell some too.  So I posted that and the fact that I was mad about it because it isn't like they did it on purpose and that no one really likes her and that is the reason that the SIL AND BIL don't come by that much. <--  that's it no names no addresses nothing that you would be able to tell who I am speaking about. 

A couple of days later I received a email about not wanting to be dragged into our fight and that they didn't appreciate the fact I was talking about family on the internet and a whole bunch of nothing.  So I apologized and deleted the blog. <----DELETED MY BLOG!!!!  Didn't matter they came over the following day and told my MIL to go to the site and not only that....they printed the damn thing out!!!  WTF!!!!

So she wrote me a while back...

Hey ROAORM

Hope you are doing well and your leg is finally healed 100%

I was hoping to talk to you in person but that opportunity has not arisen.  I know a lot of stuff happened last year.  I really hope that we can come to a place where we can enjoy family gatherings and events together.  Life is short and it has it's ups and downs so I hope we can make it an up time again.

We don't have to be best pals or anything but I think we should work at being family because at the end of the day that is what matters and it's important for the kids to see that.

No matter what, know that if y'all needed me, even in bad times, I would be there for you even though the relationship was strained.

Hopefully I will see you at Easter.  We don't have to talk about this anymore unless you want to. 

xoxo
 SIL

I responded with...

I am not sure how to respond.

Back when BIL wrote me that you didn't want your name in on my blog or to be dragged into he middle I said Sorry and deleted the blog. You both responded by deleting and blocking me again. That was uncalled for I think after I had said Sorry and deleted the blog.

I have been avoiding family gatherings because I didn't want to be "shunned" again like I was at Christmas that one year.

I am Sorry but I am still not sure that I Will be going. I Will let someone know.

Thanks

She responded with ....

Thanks for responding.

Just for the record, some actions are not automatically fixed with an I'm sorry unfortunately.  And, deleting a blog does not make everyone forget that it happened.

This was a big one ROAORM.  The FB/social media has gotten out of hand. Just cause we aren't FB friends doesn't mean that we are not family.  This is insane.  We need to live outside of the social media world - especially when it comes to matters related to family.  That time that you were home injured with your leg I think was very hurtful to you and I get it....the computer was the only thing you thought you had. I just think playing out your life on the internet/social media is not healthy for you, your family or the rest of the people in your life/family.

Let's find a way to move forward -- it may take some time, but it can be done.  There are a lot of family things going on like Other BIL and Future SIL wedding, Uncle and Future Aunt wedding, family coming down from Minnesota and Chicago.  We all want you guys to be a part of it.  These times do not come around again. 

Hope what I said did not make matters worse.  It was not written with malice or ill will.  It is what I would have told you in person if I had the opportunity.

Have a great day/rest of the week and I hope to see you guys SOON.

And again...

Well I was unaware that anyone other than you two knew about the blog. Like I had said when I wrote BIL back, it had only had a couple views.  HUBS and will be there for the weddings and the family coming down from where ever, but we would like to stay out of all other drama.  Yes, you did hurt me when you all deleted and blocked me from my only way of seeing anything at the time. 

 

Last one...

 

ROAORM...everyone that was friends with you on FB got the alert to read your blog because the alert came across FB. Neither BIL nor I knew you ever had a blog if it were not for the postings on FB advertising it.  Your blog was tied to FB.  The problem is everyone was reading your blog posts and it sounds like BIL was the only one that said anything after that final blog post.

There are other ways to keep in touch with your family.  If you didn't have a phone you could have emailed or written, come over to the house etc.  Social media is not the only tool to communicate.

With that said, I am happy to hear you will be attending the family functions.  I truly believe it's a step in the right direction.   As far as good news, there really hasn't been any drama at all since this event -- at least that I know of.  No family, friendship, relationship is drama free.  It's all in how you handle it.  You can intensify the fire or you can work to put it out.

If nothing else at least we are communicating and not via FB - Awesome.

You still have my number right?   Here it is just in case you want to talk in person.

 ***-***-****

 SIL
 

 

Ok so I don't really want to email you what makes you think that I would want to call your ass!!??  *sigh*

 

So what are your thoughts?  I feel that I am no longer in the wrong after I had apologized and deleted the blog.  It doesn't stop there though!

 

At Christmas this past year the Hubs and the kids went to their house and was ignored by them.  Their family didn't speak to them.  That is what I didn't want happening, that is the reason that I didn't want to go or to be around them at all.  I never in a million years think that they would treat my kids or husband like that.  They are supposed to be BIG christen people that go to church all of the time and believe in forgiveness but they don't act like a christen person is supposed to act.  I don't know what to think. 

 

Lawd have mercy!!!! 

Horse B**ch!

I know that you have to get tired of me bitching and moaning horse bitch but here it goes again...

I really really hate her!  She is Psycho like really really!!  She sent me a text message 2 days ago saying that she didn't want me to feed her horses anymore.  I said Ok.  I was really happy that I wasn't going to have to do that.  She also said that I was supposed to feed her horses twice a day.  Um don't tell the person that is feeding your animals that she is supposed to do something when you aren't offering them anything in return. 

Then yesterday she text me that she was going to be moving her horses but she wasn't going to tell me when so not to ask.  WTF I don't care!  This is how the rest of the day went.....

Her MIL telling me all kinds of things like what her last name is, what to go online and look for, what all she was saying involving our horses, ect. ect.  So by the time feeding time came around I was down there and waiting for them so WE could feed.  First off they had me waiting for over and hour and a half, now you say well why didn't you just feed yours, well that is a great question. 

Answer is because they are in a pasture and to do that I would have to either a) take them out and hold them on lead ropes until they finish eating; or b) shoo away the other horses with a whip until mine are done, which by the way doesn't work so (a) it would have been. 
 

So I decided to be the better person and wait because me and the hubs had had a talk the night before and decided that since they are moving their horses we would build (with barbwire) a little corral for her two horses to be in because....

 They don't help us pay for hay. They don't help us carry water down to the horses.  They don't like to worm their horses when we do (because they are difficult!)
 

 When they finally pulled up down the street and hour and a half later I was like "thank god!"  HA!  They stayed in the house for another 30 minutes 'visiting' I guess.  They finally start my way with horse feed in hand.  After all horses are fed I walk close (10-15 feet from them) to them and say

 "Hey since you guys are wanting to feed 2 times a day to my one and since you guys are wanting to finally take responsibility for your animals, we are going to put up a corral for your horses so we don't have to keep supplying all of the hay and water for your horses too." 
 

 You would have thought that I suggested that they put the horses down or something.  She (horse bitch) flipped the hell out on me.  Calling me names, telling me to mind my own business, all kinds of shit. 

Then, THEN, the little psycho bitch accused us of stealing her feed!  That is when I jumped back! I told her when can we steal your feed?!  Your MIL has been giving us the buckets!!! <--BITCH!!   I may be alot of things but a thief is not one of them.  They owe us money for feed, hay, time, I mean I could go on and on and on!!  She thought that it was wrong that I suggested such a thing.  Fuck you bitch!!!   Then she said something that I am sure she regretted immediately.  She said "You shouldn't have let that fat girl ride on your horse. He is to thin to be carrying her!"  I said "What?"  Thinking she mis-spoke, and she said it again.  Just so you all know the "fat girl" that she is talking about just so happens to own the land and is my cousin.   Yep!  So I told her "I will make sure that your horses are gone in two weeks now!" <--She is still deny-ing sending that text)  After I said that she says "They will make you move yours before we have to move ours."  I said "Really, They are my family you dumbass!!!"  Oh just so you know I also was repeating, out loud, to her, "your lucky your pregnant because if you weren't I would whoop your fuckin ass!!!  You are fucking psycho!!!" 

After that all I would say to her as she was still Yelling was (flip her off) "fuck you Psycho!"

God, I hate her, she made me cry later that day. I am NOT a cryer!  Well not over people! 

Oh I forgot to share that she has had horses seized from her before for starving them.  Link here   Make sure you share it around!  So maybe the county will come and rescue these horses, because if it wasn't for us having horses down there they might be dead.   

To Be (sick) or not to be!

Ok, so, lets just start off by saying I have been sick. I layed in bed all day yesterday sleeping sick, and I only tell you this because if you didn't know that I had been sick well the following would make no sense. 

My House is a disaster! 

I just cleaned it Wednesday! Seriously! Like it was not just an, oh sure come and look at my living room but don't go anywhere else clean, No!  It was, Oh the president wants to come to my house? Sure let me give you the grand tour, clean!  Sadly it is back to its old ways!  I believe that I may have a ghost!  I can clean the house and wake up the next morning and nobody know what happened!  Case in point!
      'Who left this half a glass of milk on the counter over night?!'
         'not me'
          'wasn't me either mom'
            'I didn't have milk'!
 Oh, Really?  it wasn't any of you? REALLY?!  Ok, well that seems Legit!  GHOST!  So we call him Marvin.  So now I say
     'Oh none of you left it out'
         'Well it must have been Marvin' 

Onto other news....Honestly there isn't other news.....Oh there is!  Me and the MIL are talking, AGAIN!  The BIL or the SIL still haven't tried and Honestly I don't know if I want to speak with them.  I know you are going WTF is she talking about!  Ok well I guess I will recap. 

     Me and the in laws, specifically the MIL, BIL, and SIL get into arguments quite often about random stuff.  The last one was about my daughter and a blog that I had up but is now taken down.   My MIL was very rude to my daughter one day.  I blogged about it and was hit with a brick, not literally but by email.  Now if you have read all of my blogs you will notice that I don't use names so if I did mention you in one of my blogs it isn't like anyone will know that I am speaking about you.  They asked me not to "pull them into our fights" and then blocked me from their Face book pages!  I didn't say your Name **** ****!  Even if I had come on it isn't like anyone reads this anyways, right!  So just to say they haven't spoken to me since before Memorial day last year!  WOOHOO!!! Like I could care!  I do have to say though I have been losing less hair now!

Sorry I am a little spazzy, I jump around alot!  Try and keep up it might get interesting!

Back to the house....I am going on strike!  I am playing sick now...maybe for the rest of the week, I don't know yet.  I just don't think that if I clean all day on one day you should be able to destroy it on another!

Ok well stay out of trouble and don't let the Zombies get you!  Peace out!

HI

Hey you guys...I have decided to start writing in my blog again so I can keep y'all entertained!  yay!  Now don't get to excited because this isn't going to be an everyday thing may not even be a weekly thing, but I am here and I am writing.

I guess since I am starting this over again I will start off by telling you a little about me and my family!  Hi I am ~M~ or better known on Facebook as Psycho Bitch :).  I have a husband whom I lovingly refer to as Mert. We have 2 kids Bear my daughter who is so very close to being 15 and my sweet sweet son Bubba who is 11 going on 12 in June.  We have animals, oh do we have animals...we have 2 dogs Riley and Nash, a cat Calli, and 2 horses Max and Moonshine.  I have made it known that I would love to have another child in the future.  I probably won't but hey doesn't hurt to dream, right?!

Ok so let me tell you about my family. No not my kids and husband, how about my mom and her husband to start off :)  Your saying ok and, yeh well I love my mom dearly but I really hate dislike her husband strongly.  I have my reasons so lets list some of them shall we...

1. He is an ass
2. He is an indian giver (sorry don't know the correct term)
3. He literally took my home from me and my kids when I fell a month behind after us living there for over 6 years.
4. He sold the horse I was going to buy from him 2 weeks after I offered him $600 for only $350 :(
5. He lends his son $1800 for rent and doesn't ask for it back but I borrowed $50 for something and I had to pay it back the next week because he didn't have the money for gas!
Did I mention that he is an ass!
That is just a few things that he has done!

Ok well the following is what got me into trouble last time but lets try this again shall we...

The next paragraph is going to be about Merts family and the ups and downs of all of us. 

His family is something to cherish.  His Grandma is awsome. I love her to death, she is sweet, but speaks her mind.  She tries her best not to be hateful. That being said she misses her late husband alot and if you listen carefully you can hear her having conversations with him still every now and then.  His mom which is my MIL is a little (I believe) Bi-polar.  She says it is just menopause.  I think that she is a little twisted at times but hey who isn't.  I feel like she does stuff that she wants to do out of kindness but later when she wants something or if we get into a fight she will say "well I did _____ for you guys so you should do _______ for me"  ya know.  Her husband, Merts step-dad, is going looney, literally.  We all believe that he has either dimentia or alztimers.  Ha, his brother my EBIL thinks he is mr. high and mighty that can block people from Facebook whenever he gets pissed at you! PFFT WHAT THE F*** EVER. 

Ok so now that all of that is over you will know who in the hell I am talking about when I rant and vent about all things.  Oh BTW there will be cussing I will at times try and refrane but there will always be some.  Have a nice day and enjoy your kids.

Oh and if you haven't already go and like my Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/Somethintotalkabout?ref=hl  It is so worth it!