My Kid :0)

Yeah I know, my idea's are not always that great, but I think you might like this one! 

So I was sitting here and thinking about how yesterday I said that we were going to start doing something for Friday's, right?  Well I got it.  Friday will forever be known as Save me day...

Save me day is going to be about saving someone or something that is special to you and that was created when I read the blog about a woman and her child that has Autism. Link here <--- 

My child has ADHD and for a long time I didn't know what was wrong with her.  I just thought she was a 'bad' kid.  She was really bad.  She would hide under her desk at school, throw stuff, cuss, scream, hit, fight teachers and kids, it was bad.  One day I had had enough, she was in 3rd grade and was not even close to passing and this was the beginning of the year. I thought all kids passed the first 6 weeks.  Wow was I proven wrong.  Bear was like a tornado one minute and a sweet angel that just wanted a hug the next.  I was having weekly visits with her teachers in the third month into 3rd grade when one of them finally ask me, "Have you ever had her tested for ADHD?"  <---What the hell is that?!  I had no clue that there was such a thing.

I mean come on folks, I was at the end of my rope.  I thought that I just didn't need to raise kids.  I was really screwing this one up bad!  I would cry nightly about this while looking at boot camp schools to send her too.  I just couldn't do it any more.  I was so depressed and I was thinking of calling my mom, whom I hadn't spoken to in 2 years to just come and get her and she can raise her!!!

That afternoon I called her doctor and asked about it.  He said come and pick up these papers so you and the teachers can fill them out and return them to me.  I said how late are you open?  I went, got the papers, took them to the teachers, had all of it filled out and turned back in that day!  The next day the doctor called me and said that they needed me to bring her in, and if this afternoon was OK?  OMG do you want me to go and get her now!!!!???? 

After I took her in and they put her on Focolin XR it was Night and Day!  Literally!  I was back in love with my child.  She was my sweet baby again!!!  Now though that she has been 'labeled' I have to fight for her daily...

I have to have yearly meeting with the school so they can tell me the 'goals' for that year with her.  It is in her record that she has ADHD so all of her teachers automatically treat her as if she is a 'bad' kid still.  They don't give her second chances like a child without a problem would get.  The first time she messes up she gets sent to the principle's office. 

This is my story...Next week I would love to hear yours!  And remember that child you see in front of you acting out may just be struggling with his/her own problems, so before you label him/her stop and think about my story.

My turn!!! oh oh oh ME ME!

I know that you are reading my blog because I see you doing it!  So why don't you go and like the page that created it on Facebook <--Link to it there!

 I am thinking of going and doing something special every Friday on here.  Like a look at me kinda thing!  Whatcha' think?

Suggestions of what I could do would be great!   Maybe, once a month, have a ask me anything kinda blog?  That would be cool, right?  Or a funny photo day, where I post nothing but silly pictures!  I don't know...

If you are a new mom and need advice on what I do or did...you could send me an email <--Link.....and ask me and I will blog about it!  Anything....Y'all should know by now I will post anything!  So let's hear it....Or maybe embarrassing stories like...I can't believe she did that, or The strangest place you have ?  ANYTHING REALLY!!!  Until I get some feed back I will turn Friday into a Photo day until you send me something!  Hurry there are enough blogs with funny pictures on them!!!!!

Why can't we be friends?

A really good friend is so very hard to catch...They are like a good man!  If you find one that you like, someone else already has them. 

I have had many of acquaintance but I have only had one real friend (besides Mertis).  She was my BEST-FRIEND!  Like seriously, we had key chains and everything!  I loved her so much.  I still do!  Her daughter is the best thing since fried chicken!  She was an easy friend to make.  We met in high school.  After I pulled the stunt of getting pregnant and dropping out of school we kinda lost touch for a while.  I found her again in my 20's after having my second child and she was pregnant with her first!  It was meant to be!  Had to be, otherwise we wouldn't have found each other again, right!?  Oh I didn't know all of the problems that she had accumulated over the years.  I learned to look past them, but they were still there.  They will always be there! 

I am not sure if you know this or not but I am a bit of a bitch!  Always have been!

 She was ok with this and my many other problems.  Like not feeling I was loved, or needing.  My OCD about everything.  My husband.  My kids and being a mother bear over them.  All of my problems.

I guess you could say that I was the bad friend too though.  She had her own problems.  She wasn't faithful to her husband.  I doubt he was to her though.  She took pills.  Lots of pills.  She always had better things to do.  She would stand me up constantly for everything, IE: movies, shopping, etc....  <--That is what did it for me finally.  I was tired of always clearing my schedule for her and I to go do something only to be forgotten.  She wouldn't even call to let me know that she wasn't coming.  She just wouldn't show up, wouldn't take my calls or messages.  Then later tell me that she was busy and forgot.  Really?!  So I was done.

Now I am trying to find another friend.  It's hard to find someone that will take all of your problems, but that you are ok dealing with theirs to.  Let me just say people have problems.  Some people only want to be your friend when it is convenient for them.  Some want to just use you and then dump you.  Some will surprise you.

 Case in point.   I was taking my kids to daycare (a long time ago).  There was a girl up there and we sorta "hit it off "  I was unaware that she and her husband were 'swingers'!  OMG, when I found out that I was a perfect 'match' for her husband and my husband for her, I ran, FAST!  That is not ok with me.  I have found my partner and do not want none of yours.  It is nice of you to share but not with me, thank you!

Another person I thought was a friend.  I worked with her and she was so nice.  We didn't hit it off right away but we grew on each other.  At work we were inseparable.  We called each other on the phone all the time and we made plans to go places that never quite worked out.  Then I broke my leg.  Lost my job.  Had to stay home.  Was on strict bed rest.  She stopped calling.  Stopped messaging me on FB.  Then I send her a happy birthday message.  She says thanks.  I see on a mutual friends page that she had a B-day party and didn't invite me.  I am still not sure as to why.  I think it may have been because we were not the same race.  Everyone there was of a certain Ethnicity.  I don't know.  I voiced my "M-ness" and was deleted from said page never to be heard from again.

So can you answer the question of the day, week, month, year, century.....Why are friends so freakin' hard to find and then keep?

Some more...

About Me!  You want to know more about me?! 

Ok so No one really wants to know more about me but I am Stealing this off of Humble's page because I thought it was cute!  If she finds out and is upset over it I will kindly take it down, but come on.......

So here is a little more about me.....


1. Where were you born?  Houston, Texas

2. Were you named after someone? I was told that I was names after my Aunt that passed when she was 11 years old...

3. How many children do you have?  Two..Bear 14 y/o and Bubba 11 y/o

4. How many pets do you have?  2 Horses, 3 dogs, and 1 cat

5. Your worst injury? My Recently broken leg...OH That was a bitch to overcome..I also 14 years ago went through 27 hours of labor with the eldest...

6. Do you have a special talent? No...not that I know of...I can go from sweet and innocent to your worst nightmare in about 2 seconds flat.
7. Favorite thing to bake? Nothing I hate baking....I love to cook!  If it is something that I have never cooked before that is even better!!! (NOT BAKING)

8. Favorite Fast Food? I really like Sonic, but recent events have made it more difficult to have here lately...

9. Would you bungee jump? No! NO! FUCK NO!  I DON'T LIKE TO BE HIGH IN THE AIR AND HAVE THE CHANCE OF MY FAT ASS FALLING AND MAKING A BIG BOOM!!!

10. What is the first thing you notice about people?  Eyes...Teeth <-- That's funny because my teeth are not perfect and that is one of the first things I notice...

11. When was the last time you cried?  Every night!  Over my long lost Charlie!!!  :(

 12. Any current worries? My kids will not grow up to be everything that they dream of ( or that I dream of them being)

13. Name 3 drinks you drink regularly. Coffee, Dr Pepper, Chocolate Milk.

14. What’s your favorite book?  I don't have a favorite one.  I will read almost anything!

15. Would you like to be a pirate? OMG to be able to say "WALK THEE PLANK MAITY!" Would be epic!

16. Favorite Smells? Fresh cut grass, a clean man, Snuggle (the blue one) Spring!
17. Why do you blog?  Mostly to vent.  I don't really have any 'girlfriends' because I am a bitch and because once I make a friend I expect it to last forever and I am really dissapointed when something happens and it doesn't...

18. What song do you want played at your funeral?   Humm...I have never really thought about.  Something off the wall maybe.  How about Wild thang for when people are coming in to sit down! <--EPIC! <--(New word)  Then just so I know everyone will be crying, Live like you were Dying...

19. What is your least favorite thing about yourself? That I speak my mind ALL THE TIME!  I can't seem to keep my mouth shut!

20. Favorite hobby? Well right now it is my garden and I am trying to get some chickens...That is bound to change though, give me a few weeks!

21. Name Something you’ve done, you never thought you would do? Have kids. 

22. What do you look for in a friend? Loyalty, Won't stand you up, Will listen and not always think that the world revolves around them, Not a drug user (sorry), There is alo.t How about I blog about it :)

23. Favorite fun things to do?  Spend time outside (when it's cool enough) Used to be ride my horses...

24. Pet peeves?  Moving anything in my house!  Please don't touch my shit!  Cussing around small kids that are not yours.  Talking on the phone at a resturant.  Putting words in my mouth <--Seriously, don't do that!  Trying to get me to change my views on Pro-whatever!  NO!

25. What’s the last thing that made you laugh? I sure it was something I saw on FB!

Ok So that was a little on me!  Hope you enjoyed it! 

FAMILY

Family is a funny thing, isn’t it?

Some love you so much that you feel they are smothering you…

Some could care less if you fell from a bridge a week ago and they haven’t heard from you!

Mine is a little mixed…

My family could care less about one another is the way I feel most of the time.  Some of that could be the depression talking but most of it is true.  I have a strange family.  The last time we were al together my sister refused to talk to my grandma because she couldn’t fly to Ohio for her wedding.  I on the other hand have started talking to my whole family again and you really couldn’t even tell.  I feel like no one really cares about me.  I feel like if I were to pass away tomorrow the only ones that would morn my death would be my husband and my kids.  Let me tell you a little bit…..

 

(NOTICE)  THE FOLLOWING WILL GET ME YELLED AT IF EVER SEEN BY MY MOTHER…

 

I have always felt like I was not loved.  My mother did not tell us she loved us until I was in my 30’s.  My mother blamed me for her depression after my dad was sent away.  Me, because I couldn’t stand living with my grandpa, and spent most of my time away from there.  She thinks that I should have spent every waking moment making sure she was ok.  I was 14.  I can remember standing at the screen door at maybe age 4 or 5 and crying because she left for work.  I can remember always feeling that I was adopted and the disappointment in finding out I wasn’t…ßsad right?  I don’t know why she was like this.  All I do know is I have fought tooth and nail to NOT be like her!!!  

She let her husband kick us out of our home of 7 years because he needed an office…I didn’t speak to her for 3 years after that.  Then the Charlie thing happened and I thought “GOD, why did I come back!!!”  While I was mad at her my grandma said some things that she will deny till the day she dies and I missed my Aunt Jackie’s Funeral…L   ß  I miss her! 

 

On the other hand my MIL smothers us.  She bought us a house…ßgreat right ‘sigh’…I wish.  She bought it so we could stay next to her F-O-R-E-V-E-R!  J  She isn’t so bad (most of the time) ….

 

I am posting all of this because my sister is Pregnant.  She went to find the sex today.  She hasn’t called me yet.  HER MIL POSTED THE SEX ON FB!  I am just a depressed bitch is all.  Believe it or not I am not even PMSing!  Lol….. 

Parenting

So I sit here and I think...What can I tell y'all this week that will just blow you away?  Guess what?  I have nothing!  Nada, Zilch, not a damn thing and I am pissed about that!  So because you were so sweet to come and see what type of gibberish I have wrote about this week I will have to improvise...

My parenting style...I am forewarning you that it may disturb you the way I parent...I am blunt with my kids.  If I get pissed at them, they will know it because I will be screaming, yelling, cussing, and everything else.  Now before you get your panties in a wad let me just say that they stand there and look at me when I am doing this with a smile on their face.  They know that I am throwing empty threats, so calm your tits! 

I am also very open with them about life.  If they ask me a question that makes me uncomfortable, well I just muscle through it and tell it like it really is.  Which kinda has back fired on me because they are also very open with me.  My daughter quite often tells me shit that I would rather not know, and my son thinks that it is cute to tell me how many 'hairs' he has down there!  AAHHHHHHH!!!!!  I really don't need to know that.

I think I am a good parent.  If you tell me any different I will hurt you.  I am the type of parent that my MIL calls a 'momma bear' because if you mess with my babies I WILL HURT YOU!   Seriously.  I don't play like that...Those are my kids and I will protect them with everything in me.  My kids are the main reason me and the MIL fight.  She doesn't think that I should protect them as much as I do.  She thinks that she should be able to come out and tell them what to do with me sitting there.  PFFT......

I don't let my kids go anywhere unless I do a child predator check first in that area.  If by chance (this has happened) I arrive at the house and I don't like the way it looks.  Be prepared to be royally embarrassed because I will leave!  Bear, the whole way home says "OMG MOM YOU HAVE RUINED MY LIFE FOREVER!!!"  Have I ruined you life because I think I may have just made it to where my daughter will graduate and do great in life...Bear has 2 good friends...That being said, they are a year younger than her(she was held back) and both of them are on birth control!  It isn't because they need to regulate their periods...NO it is because they are having sex, REGULARLY!!!!  Hello, good momma, right here!  My child is not having sex yet, WHEW!  Oh how do I know you ask?  Because she can't go anywhere!  That and I know that she would tell me or her dad <again we are an open family)...Her one friend's parents will bring her over to see her boyfriend, who lives one street over from us, but won't bring her here.  Strange right?!  Makes me think that they want her to have sex.

Now my sister, I love her, but lord help her style of parenting.  I cannot tell you how many times she has called me saying something like 'M HELP, HOW DO YOU GET _________________(fill in with some type of creamy liquid) out of (hair, carpet, clothes, walls, ect.....)  Now you could say that she needs to watch her kids better......(you could say it, it's ok)  I do find humor in it though.  I would spend hours laughing afterwards... 

Her youngest would get onto the counter tops and pull out all of the dishes from the cabinet.  Good thing they were plastic.   I can't parent like that....

I guess you could say that I am an average parent, but I am sure that if I wasn't 17 when I had my first and I had waited until late 20's or so I would have been superb!  Yeah probably not, but hey!

What is your style of parenting?

Dog Shaming?

 

Bad Boy!

 

Ok so if you follow me on Facebook you will know that I have posted a photo of my dog when we got home.   I had never heard of dog shaming before like 2 weeks ago and I have been itching to get just on photo of one of my dogs so I could shame them...(does that make me a bad dog parent).   Eh I don't care because it is freaking hilarious!!!!  I am now in love with it and cannot wait until the next time, and there will be a next time.  I have several things that they could be shamed for like when Riley ate my Panties.  Yep I have to hid them!  He will go into the laundry hamper and eat them, I mean eat there are no pieces left for evidence just a hole in the crotch...is it wrong that we hang them around his neck when he does it?  Cause when I see it I am so pissed it is the only thing I can do at the moment.  Then he acts like I am doing it for no reason and walks around like I should feel bad for him because he has a pair of stinking panties around his neck...PFFT!!!!  You, mister, shouldn't have been eating on them!

I am running low on panties...

I guess all animals do strange things...Both of my dogs will eat the cat poop faster than she can shit it out.   That is uberly gross, and whoever said dogs mouths were cleaner than our must have never seen some of the stuff that they eat.


Well that is all I know about this.  If it happens again I will surely post about it!