So how have y'all been?
Good?
Well I have a little something to say and I can tell ya that when I first found out I was beyond pissed.
A while back I went to Ohio to visit a friend and my sister. Well two days before I left my daughters biological father contacted her through her friend.
To some of you, you're thinking well what is wrong with that? I am going to tell you what the problem is. He hasn't had anything to do with her since she was born. At one point he made the comment that she wasn't his. He left 2 months after she was born to be with someone that was 4 years younger than me. I was 18 and he was 20. Yea!
So 2 days before I left he contacted her. She of course didn't say anything to either me or her dad. <----Mertis. She let it go for quite a while. Until well after I had gotten back. She was calling and talking to him the whole time! He has filled her head with all kinds of crap. Like for instance; I have always wanted to meet you; or I pay child support; or your mom has kept you away from me (well that is kinda true but he is a dope head and I wanted nothing to do with him); or, and this is my favorite, let me tell you all of the things that your mom did when she was a teen.
BASTARD!!!!!
HOW DARE YOU CONTACT THE CHILD THAT I HAVE RAISED FOR THE PAST 15 YEARS AND TELL HER LIES SO SHE MAY LIKE YOU!!!! THEN TURN THE TABLES AND MAKE IT SEEM LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN THE PERFECT PERSON AND THAT YOU HAVE PAID CHILD SUPPORT AND BEEN LOOKING FOR HER FOR THE PAST 15 FUCKING YEARS!!!!! YOU HAVE NOT DONE ANY OF THAT! I HAVEN'T SEEN A DIME FROM YOU IN I CAN'T EVEN REMEMBER HOW LONG. YOU HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR HER? REALLY? WELL MY GRANDMA HAS LIVED IN THE SAME HOUSE FR 30+ YEARS! HAVE YOU GONE THERE LOOKING FOR HER? NO ASS, YOU HAVEN'T!!!!
Pfft, please tell us all another lie. I had to sit MY child down and explain to her the reason why she wasn't allowed to speak to your ass!
1. you are an addict that can't stay away from the drugs!
2. you have failed to raise the other 6 kids that you have!
3. you are a pathological liar!
4. you are a worthless piece of trash that only looks out for himself!
5. you have yet to keep a job!
6. you are in jail more than you are out of it!
Damn I could go on and on and on!!! Please find one of your other kids to try and love. Stay the hell away from the one that I am almost done with!
I really hate the deadbeats that think that because she is 15, and she is so close to graduating from High School and moving on to college that you can just step back in and be "a part of her life" now! Screw you! She is the product of me and my husband knowing what love is and knowing how to show a child that love and support! She is not a product of you and your lying cheating ways! You are a worthless piece of trash that is to scared to contact me to talk to her! Instead you have to drag two 15 year olds into your fucked up world!
Being a parent is hard y'all.
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Thursday, October 31, 2013
Sunday, September 1, 2013
Two for one is not always cool.
I feel like I have been socked in the stomach. You all know that my BFF is sick and I am totally afraid of losing her. Now it has finally hit me that I am not only going to lose her but I am also losing my Aunt.
I love my aunt as much as I love my mom.
She was the fun aunt.
She was the one that you would go to if you were in trouble or wanted to get into trouble.
I was asked today by my mom if I could go with her and find something that we can lay her to "sleep" in forever. She kinda caught me off guard. Isn't that something that her son is supposed to do? I am going to have to help my mom and my grandma plan a funeral for a daughter, sister, mom, aunt, and friend to so many. So many that haven't seen her since she got sick.
My husband asked me tonight why we were having a closed casket? Well because if someone wanted to see her they should have given her the respect to see her now when it counts. I for one don't want people coming in and gawking at her when she is finally at peace. No one goes to see her now. My mom, my grandma, me, and sometimes when he can my uncle. Her son has came down to see her twice in two years. He doesn't care about anything but getting his grubby little hands on what she has left.
I don't know if I will be able to do any of this sober. I pray that I can but as I write this I am falling apart. I am so very scared of losing her and T.G. at the same time. I don't think that as strong of a person that I am that I will be ok after that.
My aunt when I was around 16 thought that it would be funny to come up to my cousin's room with some wild turkey and give me and Christi a shot of it. Wow that was some nasty shit. She was also the one that let me stay with her during the summer of 94' when I went to band camp at SFA. If she wouldn't have let me stay with her I wouldn't have been able to go. Thank you TT for being there for me and showing me that sometimes you just have to have a little fun in life and let go.
She is and always will be my Aunt TT....... </3 My heart is breaking. Mostly for her and the fact that she has no visitors...none. It is sad that the end of her days and she will be spending them alone.
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| Tina and her Mean doggy |
I love my aunt as much as I love my mom.
She was the fun aunt.
She was the one that you would go to if you were in trouble or wanted to get into trouble.
I was asked today by my mom if I could go with her and find something that we can lay her to "sleep" in forever. She kinda caught me off guard. Isn't that something that her son is supposed to do? I am going to have to help my mom and my grandma plan a funeral for a daughter, sister, mom, aunt, and friend to so many. So many that haven't seen her since she got sick.
My husband asked me tonight why we were having a closed casket? Well because if someone wanted to see her they should have given her the respect to see her now when it counts. I for one don't want people coming in and gawking at her when she is finally at peace. No one goes to see her now. My mom, my grandma, me, and sometimes when he can my uncle. Her son has came down to see her twice in two years. He doesn't care about anything but getting his grubby little hands on what she has left.
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| My Aunt Tina and Cousin Kelly. |
My aunt when I was around 16 thought that it would be funny to come up to my cousin's room with some wild turkey and give me and Christi a shot of it. Wow that was some nasty shit. She was also the one that let me stay with her during the summer of 94' when I went to band camp at SFA. If she wouldn't have let me stay with her I wouldn't have been able to go. Thank you TT for being there for me and showing me that sometimes you just have to have a little fun in life and let go.
She is and always will be my Aunt TT....... </3 My heart is breaking. Mostly for her and the fact that she has no visitors...none. It is sad that the end of her days and she will be spending them alone.
Thursday, August 29, 2013
My friend wants to leave and I don't think it's fair....
Can I just say that I am scared that I am going to lose my friend...
I don't want to lose her but I don't want her to live the way that she is having to live. I will so miss our talks and such and her dreams of going here and stealing stuff ;)
Is it bad for me to say this?
I DON'T WANT TO LOOSE HER!
She is important to me, her son, her husband, and several other people. It's not fair.
That's all............................... goodnight .....................GP SUX
I don't want to lose her but I don't want her to live the way that she is having to live. I will so miss our talks and such and her dreams of going here and stealing stuff ;)
Is it bad for me to say this?
I DON'T WANT TO LOOSE HER!
She is important to me, her son, her husband, and several other people. It's not fair.
That's all............................... goodnight .....................GP SUX
Friday, August 16, 2013
Ohio Part 3.....
This week we visit with my sister and her husband. yay...
Can I just say that although I love my sister I probably will never go to visit with her again.
I went up there on a budget, very strict budget that they knew about. Yet I was still expected to purchase everything that we would be eating for the week. Like milk and bottled water. Then when we went out to eat I also had to purchase that. So needless to say we didn't go anywhere because I didn't have the money to do so.
I had a blast hanging out with my sister and my newest nephew though.
We took a lot of really cute photo's of him but they sleep all the time, because, well, he is new and he sleeps a lot so Booboo sleeps with him.......
We did go to Pennsylvania one day to go and see some fish but as soon as we crossed the Pa. Oh border it started to rain, hard, so we came back and went to the in-laws to watch a Browns game.
Of course Matty falls asleep as soon as we get into the car...
On the second to last day we were there we became awesome like auntie and I had to take a few pictures.....
All in all I had fun. On the way back in Tenn, where by the way they should clean up their highways, we hit a large piece of metal in the road and hurt my truck. I didn't think that we would make it home, but we did where my husband and animals were happy to see me and my daughter was happy to see her bubba!!! I would highly recommend you taking at least one road trip with one, just one of your kids to get to know them. We had fun just the two of us....maybe I will do it again next year but with bear........
Can I just say that although I love my sister I probably will never go to visit with her again.
I went up there on a budget, very strict budget that they knew about. Yet I was still expected to purchase everything that we would be eating for the week. Like milk and bottled water. Then when we went out to eat I also had to purchase that. So needless to say we didn't go anywhere because I didn't have the money to do so.
I had a blast hanging out with my sister and my newest nephew though. 
We took a lot of really cute photo's of him but they sleep all the time, because, well, he is new and he sleeps a lot so Booboo sleeps with him.......
We did go to Pennsylvania one day to go and see some fish but as soon as we crossed the Pa. Oh border it started to rain, hard, so we came back and went to the in-laws to watch a Browns game.
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| On our way!! |
Of course Matty falls asleep as soon as we get into the car...
On the second to last day we were there we became awesome like auntie and I had to take a few pictures.....
All in all I had fun. On the way back in Tenn, where by the way they should clean up their highways, we hit a large piece of metal in the road and hurt my truck. I didn't think that we would make it home, but we did where my husband and animals were happy to see me and my daughter was happy to see her bubba!!! I would highly recommend you taking at least one road trip with one, just one of your kids to get to know them. We had fun just the two of us....maybe I will do it again next year but with bear........
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
Me and my Crazy ass Family............
This is a guest blog.....She needed to rant for a minute and maybe get some feedback......Maybe she will be a regular here...
OK so my family is selfish and self centered to a point that I do not understand. The day that my husband gets out of the hospital I beg him to go down to help my parents move, because none of my other siblings are helping them. We go down to find that there is not even anything packed and that the house is gross to he point you want to vomit, because no one has done anything there in months.
Now keep in mind that there are 4 adults and a baby living there(my parents and my sister her man and their child). They have known for well over a month that the moving day was coming, and yet no one has made any attempt to do anything!
Anyways, we bust our asses for like 7 hours to make a dent in this fucking mess, and realize its almost 10pm. My boys are tired, hungry, and way past ready to go home. Time for us to leave we go out to the car, and the mother fucker will not start, JUST GREAT!!! We are stranded!
So we go to the new trailer, and make a deal that would eventually start the fight of the century.
Since my father owns a shop we ask him to fix the car, and that we would stay and help him. Wednesday morning we get up, and it's this, that, and the other helping my father. About 5 pm they go and get the bracket for the alternator just to find out that it also needs another alternator (which will have to wait until Thursday now because its so late). So we continue to work on getting my parents moved, and our son goes into complete meltdown mode because he is tired of being in ass raping country with nothing to do. I call my biological mom to see if he can go stay with her until the car is fixed and we get back home. By now I have three rooms completely done! (well not cleaned but packed and emptied) can't really do anymore at this point because my mom has her room to do, and my sisters nasty fucking room that I refuse to touch! Thursday comes around and more moving and packing and this, that, and the other, they get the part for the car around 4pm, and realize that they need another bolt...oHMG are you kidding me? So we continue to work; all the while my diabetic husband hasn't had a descent meal in days because the gas is not hooked up to cook... so he is pretty much an ass at this point. Thursday, Friday same shit Saturday. By that time my husband has had it, so I tell him to head home and get our son I would finish there and they could come back and get me early Sunday morning.
I was at the trailer waiting on my father and working around my sisters shit. In the meantime my other sister showed up acting like she was a hard ass and in charge of everything! Um no bitch, I do not think so, I have been here for days doing this shit and she was not about to come in and tell me what to do! Well, when my father decided to show up we got into an argument because I was tired by this point of working around my sisters shit. My other sister and I decided to say fuck it; went into the room from hell, and went to town. Weeks of fucking dirty ass diapers and ash trays and just filth!! Disgusting! I do not see how anyone can live like that let alone keep a child in that environment!
During all this fucking insanity, another scenario....my moms mom bought all her grandchildren porcelain dolls named after them, that have been in my mothers possession since her mom passed away. I didn't get one because I came into the picture after she had passed away. So over the years, my mother had collected other dolls, that she said I could have after she was gone. That is not the point, the point is she had decided to give my siblings their dolls, and I had asked her if I could have mine too, she said yes, but by the end of the night she had asked if she could keep mine until she was gone because she loved the dolls.
Do you have any clue how that made me feel?
Out of all my siblings I am probably the only one that will cherish and take care of the dolls. Whatever, I was selfish and didn't give them back. To top that off I had asked my father if I could have the cabinet in my moms room, he said I had to ask my mom, so I did and she said she didn't care. When I was ready to load my stuff up to get ready to go, my father said that he wanted that cabinet, and the only way I could keep it was to trade him my recliner. Seriously! Are you kidding me?! I have been here for days and busted my ass to help and you are going to come at me like that with some dumb shit!!! WTF?
Last but not least during this whole horrible fucking week I sold my father my bed that is well worth over a grand... I sold it to him for furnishing the work that needs done on the car and 100 cash. I called him today because I really need the money, and he proceeds to tell me that I cant have the money because he has to help my one sister pay her $450 gas bill. That, by the way, has been disconnected.
I am so pissed right now!
I wish he would step back and look at all the shit I have done for him this week!
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
Why must they grow up?
Ok so I needed to blog today, only because I need some way of coping with what I am going through!
My babies are growing up!!!!!
When did that happen? I know that it was just yester-year that I had my beautiful 6lb 5oz 18inch long baby girl, that started kindergarten and then 6th grade, but when did she grow up?! I am NOT ready for this!! NO! I want my baby back! It isn't fair that they have to grow up and go to high school!
When she started kindergarten she didn't want to let me go. I had to stay with her most of the day because she was literally attached to my leg. I thought it was so funny. Then she got distracted and I ran, out of the room, out of the school, and into my waiting car. I carried on the rest of the day like nothing was different. <--looking back I should have cried and fought for her to stay by my side. I didn't though, I knew that she had to go to school and I still had a little one that I needed to care for at home. She was home soon enough and I took a picture of her getting off of the bus that afternoon! I can't find it so here is one of her and her brother...
She was ok the next year when she went on to 1st grade and so was I. That is the way it went until she changed schools, but again I still had one that was in Elementary that I could baby so I was ok with it. Now I am not ok with the fact that she is about to start HIGH SCHOOL!!!
It goes from baby dolls and Barbie dolls to boys and cars! It all happens so fast that you don't even know that it is happening. It hasn't hit my husband yet but I am sure that it will when we go to the 'crossing over' ceremony in a couple of weeks. He will cry! I will take a photo of it to show him later when he denies it!!
High school is a bad thing in my mind. High school is where 'things' happen. Bad things most of the time. You know like driving, dating, parties, so on and so forth. I know that I am not the only one that this has happened to. I am sure that my mom went through the same thing when I started high school, and her mom before her and on and on.....
How do you make the panic stop though? Has anyone figured out how to make them stop growing? Can you share it with me please!! I really didn't think that I was going to be one of "those" mom's!! You know the kind I am talking about. I am sure you don't wanna be one either. Just wait, it's coming.
Lord help us all....they are still growing up!!!! Here is her first day of High School...
My babies are growing up!!!!!
When did that happen? I know that it was just yester-year that I had my beautiful 6lb 5oz 18inch long baby girl, that started kindergarten and then 6th grade, but when did she grow up?! I am NOT ready for this!! NO! I want my baby back! It isn't fair that they have to grow up and go to high school!
When she started kindergarten she didn't want to let me go. I had to stay with her most of the day because she was literally attached to my leg. I thought it was so funny. Then she got distracted and I ran, out of the room, out of the school, and into my waiting car. I carried on the rest of the day like nothing was different. <--looking back I should have cried and fought for her to stay by my side. I didn't though, I knew that she had to go to school and I still had a little one that I needed to care for at home. She was home soon enough and I took a picture of her getting off of the bus that afternoon! I can't find it so here is one of her and her brother...
She was ok the next year when she went on to 1st grade and so was I. That is the way it went until she changed schools, but again I still had one that was in Elementary that I could baby so I was ok with it. Now I am not ok with the fact that she is about to start HIGH SCHOOL!!!
It goes from baby dolls and Barbie dolls to boys and cars! It all happens so fast that you don't even know that it is happening. It hasn't hit my husband yet but I am sure that it will when we go to the 'crossing over' ceremony in a couple of weeks. He will cry! I will take a photo of it to show him later when he denies it!!
High school is a bad thing in my mind. High school is where 'things' happen. Bad things most of the time. You know like driving, dating, parties, so on and so forth. I know that I am not the only one that this has happened to. I am sure that my mom went through the same thing when I started high school, and her mom before her and on and on.....
How do you make the panic stop though? Has anyone figured out how to make them stop growing? Can you share it with me please!! I really didn't think that I was going to be one of "those" mom's!! You know the kind I am talking about. I am sure you don't wanna be one either. Just wait, it's coming.
Lord help us all....they are still growing up!!!! Here is her first day of High School...
Monday, May 13, 2013
My Mommy's day experience. . . . . . . . . . . .
Hi y'all....Happy Monday to you!
How was your mommy's day? Mine was horrid!! The worst!! Why well keep reading.....
It started out great, I woke up at around 9ish and sat down and drank my coffee in the peace and quiet of my living room. I then got up and texted a few people happy mommy's day, called my MIL and my mom to wish them the same. The kids and the Hubs rose and so we started our day. I was asked by the hubs what I wanted to do today, -->this crossed my mind (The same thing we do every -mother's day- try and take over the world) Go to the beach!!! I want to go to the beach! So we all got our swim suits on and then #1 strikes....
Bear- Dad I started my period.
Dad- ok
Bear- the sharks will get me
Me- (rolls eyes) Let's go!!
We head out after getting what few things we need packed. (sample) ---> 4 towels, sunscreen (no one used) nook, phone, sun glasses, and swim trunks for the boys.
Stop at McD's for lunch and we are off.....We get about 20 miles or so from McD's and BOOM traffic! *sigh* Ok well it's ok. I tell the large one that we are not in any hurry so chill! (noon-ish)
About 2-ish we are still in said traffic and he is flipped his lid about 3 times....*sigh* Traffic clears and we are off.....We make it to the beach at about 2:30pm, it isn't too full.....Just right......Bear informs her 'daddy' that she has to poop. . . . . WTF!! We just left town . . . . . We just stopped at a Sonic so I could Pee before we came out to the beach why didn't you go there! ? ! ? !
Me being the parent says "ok lets just take her to the port-a-potty so she can go" because now she has informed me that she needs to change her *clears throat* lady thing too...
My husband on the other hand. . . ."No I will dig a hole and we will shield her because now I have to go too so you can shield me later" W T F ! ! ! "NO!! WE WILL GO INTO TOWN!!!"
He is digging hole! I just walked away....*sigh* Why does this shit happen to me? <--No pun intended. . . . did I get an apology? PFFT NO... I was pissed at the both because we had 'neighbors' all around us and they know what is going on if someone makes a 'tent' against a truck. uuggghhghghg!!
OH and to top it off on the way home...yep you guessed it traffic again!!
How was your mommy's day?
How was your mommy's day? Mine was horrid!! The worst!! Why well keep reading.....
It started out great, I woke up at around 9ish and sat down and drank my coffee in the peace and quiet of my living room. I then got up and texted a few people happy mommy's day, called my MIL and my mom to wish them the same. The kids and the Hubs rose and so we started our day. I was asked by the hubs what I wanted to do today, -->this crossed my mind (The same thing we do every -mother's day- try and take over the world) Go to the beach!!! I want to go to the beach! So we all got our swim suits on and then #1 strikes....
Bear- Dad I started my period.
Dad- ok
Bear- the sharks will get me
Me- (rolls eyes) Let's go!!
We head out after getting what few things we need packed. (sample) ---> 4 towels, sunscreen (no one used) nook, phone, sun glasses, and swim trunks for the boys.
Stop at McD's for lunch and we are off.....We get about 20 miles or so from McD's and BOOM traffic! *sigh* Ok well it's ok. I tell the large one that we are not in any hurry so chill! (noon-ish)
About 2-ish we are still in said traffic and he is flipped his lid about 3 times....*sigh* Traffic clears and we are off.....We make it to the beach at about 2:30pm, it isn't too full.....Just right......Bear informs her 'daddy' that she has to poop. . . . . WTF!! We just left town . . . . . We just stopped at a Sonic so I could Pee before we came out to the beach why didn't you go there! ? ! ? !
Me being the parent says "ok lets just take her to the port-a-potty so she can go" because now she has informed me that she needs to change her *clears throat* lady thing too...
My husband on the other hand. . . ."No I will dig a hole and we will shield her because now I have to go too so you can shield me later" W T F ! ! ! "NO!! WE WILL GO INTO TOWN!!!"
He is digging hole! I just walked away....*sigh* Why does this shit happen to me? <--No pun intended. . . . did I get an apology? PFFT NO... I was pissed at the both because we had 'neighbors' all around us and they know what is going on if someone makes a 'tent' against a truck. uuggghhghghg!!
OH and to top it off on the way home...yep you guessed it traffic again!!
How was your mommy's day?
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
So yeah....
I have something to blog about.....yea yea I know, it's about time....
So a while back I had another blog that I had started when I broke my leg just to talk or vent or whatever. So I had wrote about something that had happened at home...let me recap.
Bear and a friend were over and decided to walk the big dog. They walked outside with him and the FIL was outside with his 2 puppies on one line and they pulled him over. He proceeded to yell at Bear and her friend and then the MIL came out to yell some too. So I posted that and the fact that I was mad about it because it isn't like they did it on purpose and that no one really likes her and that is the reason that the SIL AND BIL don't come by that much. <-- that's it no names no addresses nothing that you would be able to tell who I am speaking about.
A couple of days later I received a email about not wanting to be dragged into our fight and that they didn't appreciate the fact I was talking about family on the internet and a whole bunch of nothing. So I apologized and deleted the blog. <----DELETED MY BLOG!!!! Didn't matter they came over the following day and told my MIL to go to the site and not only that....they printed the damn thing out!!! WTF!!!!
So she wrote me a while back...
Hey ROAORM
Hope you are doing well and your leg is finally healed 100%
I was hoping to talk to you in person but that opportunity has not arisen. I know a lot of stuff happened last year. I really hope that we can come to a place where we can enjoy family gatherings and events together. Life is short and it has it's ups and downs so I hope we can make it an up time again.
We don't have to be best pals or anything but I think we should work at being family because at the end of the day that is what matters and it's important for the kids to see that.
No matter what, know that if y'all needed me, even in bad times, I would be there for you even though the relationship was strained.
Hopefully I will see you at Easter. We don't have to talk about this anymore unless you want to.
xoxo
SIL
I responded with...
I am not sure how to respond.
Back when BIL wrote me that you didn't want your name in on my blog or to be dragged into he middle I said Sorry and deleted the blog. You both responded by deleting and blocking me again. That was uncalled for I think after I had said Sorry and deleted the blog.
I have been avoiding family gatherings because I didn't want to be "shunned" again like I was at Christmas that one year.
I am Sorry but I am still not sure that I Will be going. I Will let someone know.
Thanks
She responded with ....
Thanks for responding.
Just for the record, some actions are not automatically fixed with an I'm sorry unfortunately. And, deleting a blog does not make everyone forget that it happened.
This was a big one ROAORM. The FB/social media has gotten out of hand. Just cause we aren't FB friends doesn't mean that we are not family. This is insane. We need to live outside of the social media world - especially when it comes to matters related to family. That time that you were home injured with your leg I think was very hurtful to you and I get it....the computer was the only thing you thought you had. I just think playing out your life on the internet/social media is not healthy for you, your family or the rest of the people in your life/family.
Let's find a way to move forward -- it may take some time, but it can be done. There are a lot of family things going on like Other BIL and Future SIL wedding, Uncle and Future Aunt wedding, family coming down from Minnesota and Chicago. We all want you guys to be a part of it. These times do not come around again.
Hope what I said did not make matters worse. It was not written with malice or ill will. It is what I would have told you in person if I had the opportunity.
Have a great day/rest of the week and I hope to see you guys SOON.
And again...
So a while back I had another blog that I had started when I broke my leg just to talk or vent or whatever. So I had wrote about something that had happened at home...let me recap.
Bear and a friend were over and decided to walk the big dog. They walked outside with him and the FIL was outside with his 2 puppies on one line and they pulled him over. He proceeded to yell at Bear and her friend and then the MIL came out to yell some too. So I posted that and the fact that I was mad about it because it isn't like they did it on purpose and that no one really likes her and that is the reason that the SIL AND BIL don't come by that much. <-- that's it no names no addresses nothing that you would be able to tell who I am speaking about.
A couple of days later I received a email about not wanting to be dragged into our fight and that they didn't appreciate the fact I was talking about family on the internet and a whole bunch of nothing. So I apologized and deleted the blog. <----DELETED MY BLOG!!!! Didn't matter they came over the following day and told my MIL to go to the site and not only that....they printed the damn thing out!!! WTF!!!!
So she wrote me a while back...
Hey ROAORM
Hope you are doing well and your leg is finally healed 100%
I was hoping to talk to you in person but that opportunity has not arisen. I know a lot of stuff happened last year. I really hope that we can come to a place where we can enjoy family gatherings and events together. Life is short and it has it's ups and downs so I hope we can make it an up time again.
We don't have to be best pals or anything but I think we should work at being family because at the end of the day that is what matters and it's important for the kids to see that.
No matter what, know that if y'all needed me, even in bad times, I would be there for you even though the relationship was strained.
Hopefully I will see you at Easter. We don't have to talk about this anymore unless you want to.
xoxo
SIL
I responded with...
I am not sure how to respond.
Back when BIL wrote me that you didn't want your name in on my blog or to be dragged into he middle I said Sorry and deleted the blog. You both responded by deleting and blocking me again. That was uncalled for I think after I had said Sorry and deleted the blog.
I have been avoiding family gatherings because I didn't want to be "shunned" again like I was at Christmas that one year.
I am Sorry but I am still not sure that I Will be going. I Will let someone know.
Thanks
She responded with ....
Thanks for responding.
Just for the record, some actions are not automatically fixed with an I'm sorry unfortunately. And, deleting a blog does not make everyone forget that it happened.
This was a big one ROAORM. The FB/social media has gotten out of hand. Just cause we aren't FB friends doesn't mean that we are not family. This is insane. We need to live outside of the social media world - especially when it comes to matters related to family. That time that you were home injured with your leg I think was very hurtful to you and I get it....the computer was the only thing you thought you had. I just think playing out your life on the internet/social media is not healthy for you, your family or the rest of the people in your life/family.
Let's find a way to move forward -- it may take some time, but it can be done. There are a lot of family things going on like Other BIL and Future SIL wedding, Uncle and Future Aunt wedding, family coming down from Minnesota and Chicago. We all want you guys to be a part of it. These times do not come around again.
Hope what I said did not make matters worse. It was not written with malice or ill will. It is what I would have told you in person if I had the opportunity.
Have a great day/rest of the week and I hope to see you guys SOON.
And again...
Well I was unaware that anyone other than you two knew about the blog. Like I had said when I wrote BIL back, it had only had a couple views. HUBS and will be there for the weddings and the family coming down from where ever, but we would like to stay out of all other drama. Yes, you did hurt me when you all deleted and blocked me from my only way of seeing anything at the time.
Last one...
ROAORM...everyone that was friends with you on FB got the alert to read your blog because the alert came across FB. Neither BIL nor I knew you ever had a blog if it were not for the postings on FB advertising it. Your blog was tied to FB. The problem is everyone was reading your blog posts and it sounds like BIL was the only one that said anything after that final blog post.
There are other ways to keep in touch with your family. If you didn't have a phone you could have emailed or written, come over to the house etc. Social media is not the only tool to communicate.
With that said, I am happy to hear you will be attending the family functions. I truly believe it's a step in the right direction. As far as good news, there really hasn't been any drama at all since this event -- at least that I know of. No family, friendship, relationship is drama free. It's all in how you handle it. You can intensify the fire or you can work to put it out.
If nothing else at least we are communicating and not via FB - Awesome.
You still have my number right? Here it is just in case you want to talk in person.
***-***-****
SIL
There are other ways to keep in touch with your family. If you didn't have a phone you could have emailed or written, come over to the house etc. Social media is not the only tool to communicate.
With that said, I am happy to hear you will be attending the family functions. I truly believe it's a step in the right direction. As far as good news, there really hasn't been any drama at all since this event -- at least that I know of. No family, friendship, relationship is drama free. It's all in how you handle it. You can intensify the fire or you can work to put it out.
If nothing else at least we are communicating and not via FB - Awesome.
You still have my number right? Here it is just in case you want to talk in person.
***-***-****
SIL
Ok so I don't really want to email you what makes you think that I would want to call your ass!!?? *sigh*
So what are your thoughts? I feel that I am no longer in the wrong after I had apologized and deleted the blog. It doesn't stop there though!
At Christmas this past year the Hubs and the kids went to their house and was ignored by them. Their family didn't speak to them. That is what I didn't want happening, that is the reason that I didn't want to go or to be around them at all. I never in a million years think that they would treat my kids or husband like that. They are supposed to be BIG christen people that go to church all of the time and believe in forgiveness but they don't act like a christen person is supposed to act. I don't know what to think.
Lawd have mercy!!!!
Friday, March 8, 2013
My Kid :0)
Yeah I know, my idea's are not always that great, but I think you might like this one!
So I was sitting here and thinking about how yesterday I said that we were going to start doing something for Friday's, right? Well I got it. Friday will forever be known as Save me day...
Save me day is going to be about saving someone or something that is special to you and that was created when I read the blog about a woman and her child that has Autism. Link here <---
My child has ADHD and for a long time I didn't know what was wrong with her. I just thought she was a 'bad' kid. She was really bad. She would hide under her desk at school, throw stuff, cuss, scream, hit, fight teachers and kids, it was bad. One day I had had enough, she was in 3rd grade and was not even close to passing and this was the beginning of the year. I thought all kids passed the first 6 weeks. Wow was I proven wrong. Bear was like a tornado one minute and a sweet angel that just wanted a hug the next. I was having weekly visits with her teachers in the third month into 3rd grade when one of them finally ask me, "Have you ever had her tested for ADHD?" <---What the hell is that?! I had no clue that there was such a thing.
I mean come on folks, I was at the end of my rope. I thought that I just didn't need to raise kids. I was really screwing this one up bad! I would cry nightly about this while looking at boot camp schools to send her too. I just couldn't do it any more. I was so depressed and I was thinking of calling my mom, whom I hadn't spoken to in 2 years to just come and get her and she can raise her!!!
That afternoon I called her doctor and asked about it. He said come and pick up these papers so you and the teachers can fill them out and return them to me. I said how late are you open? I went, got the papers, took them to the teachers, had all of it filled out and turned back in that day! The next day the doctor called me and said that they needed me to bring her in, and if this afternoon was OK? OMG do you want me to go and get her now!!!!????
After I took her in and they put her on Focolin XR it was Night and Day! Literally! I was back in love with my child. She was my sweet baby again!!! Now though that she has been 'labeled' I have to fight for her daily...
I have to have yearly meeting with the school so they can tell me the 'goals' for that year with her. It is in her record that she has ADHD so all of her teachers automatically treat her as if she is a 'bad' kid still. They don't give her second chances like a child without a problem would get. The first time she messes up she gets sent to the principle's office.
This is my story...Next week I would love to hear yours! And remember that child you see in front of you acting out may just be struggling with his/her own problems, so before you label him/her stop and think about my story.
So I was sitting here and thinking about how yesterday I said that we were going to start doing something for Friday's, right? Well I got it. Friday will forever be known as Save me day...
Save me day is going to be about saving someone or something that is special to you and that was created when I read the blog about a woman and her child that has Autism. Link here <---
My child has ADHD and for a long time I didn't know what was wrong with her. I just thought she was a 'bad' kid. She was really bad. She would hide under her desk at school, throw stuff, cuss, scream, hit, fight teachers and kids, it was bad. One day I had had enough, she was in 3rd grade and was not even close to passing and this was the beginning of the year. I thought all kids passed the first 6 weeks. Wow was I proven wrong. Bear was like a tornado one minute and a sweet angel that just wanted a hug the next. I was having weekly visits with her teachers in the third month into 3rd grade when one of them finally ask me, "Have you ever had her tested for ADHD?" <---What the hell is that?! I had no clue that there was such a thing.
I mean come on folks, I was at the end of my rope. I thought that I just didn't need to raise kids. I was really screwing this one up bad! I would cry nightly about this while looking at boot camp schools to send her too. I just couldn't do it any more. I was so depressed and I was thinking of calling my mom, whom I hadn't spoken to in 2 years to just come and get her and she can raise her!!!
That afternoon I called her doctor and asked about it. He said come and pick up these papers so you and the teachers can fill them out and return them to me. I said how late are you open? I went, got the papers, took them to the teachers, had all of it filled out and turned back in that day! The next day the doctor called me and said that they needed me to bring her in, and if this afternoon was OK? OMG do you want me to go and get her now!!!!????
After I took her in and they put her on Focolin XR it was Night and Day! Literally! I was back in love with my child. She was my sweet baby again!!! Now though that she has been 'labeled' I have to fight for her daily...
I have to have yearly meeting with the school so they can tell me the 'goals' for that year with her. It is in her record that she has ADHD so all of her teachers automatically treat her as if she is a 'bad' kid still. They don't give her second chances like a child without a problem would get. The first time she messes up she gets sent to the principle's office.
This is my story...Next week I would love to hear yours! And remember that child you see in front of you acting out may just be struggling with his/her own problems, so before you label him/her stop and think about my story.
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Why can't we be friends?
A really good friend is so very hard to catch...They are like a good man! If you find one that you like, someone else already has them.
I have had many of acquaintance but I have only had one real friend (besides Mertis). She was my BEST-FRIEND! Like seriously, we had key chains and everything! I loved her so much. I still do! Her daughter is the best thing since fried chicken! She was an easy friend to make. We met in high school. After I pulled the stunt of getting pregnant and dropping out of school we kinda lost touch for a while. I found her again in my 20's after having my second child and she was pregnant with her first! It was meant to be! Had to be, otherwise we wouldn't have found each other again, right!? Oh I didn't know all of the problems that she had accumulated over the years. I learned to look past them, but they were still there. They will always be there!
I am not sure if you know this or not but I am a bit of a bitch! Always have been!
She was ok with this and my many other problems. Like not feeling I was loved, or needing. My OCD about everything. My husband. My kids and being a mother bear over them. All of my problems.
I guess you could say that I was the bad friend too though. She had her own problems. She wasn't faithful to her husband. I doubt he was to her though. She took pills. Lots of pills. She always had better things to do. She would stand me up constantly for everything, IE: movies, shopping, etc.... <--That is what did it for me finally. I was tired of always clearing my schedule for her and I to go do something only to be forgotten. She wouldn't even call to let me know that she wasn't coming. She just wouldn't show up, wouldn't take my calls or messages. Then later tell me that she was busy and forgot. Really?! So I was done.
Now I am trying to find another friend. It's hard to find someone that will take all of your problems, but that you are ok dealing with theirs to. Let me just say people have problems. Some people only want to be your friend when it is convenient for them. Some want to just use you and then dump you. Some will surprise you.
Case in point. I was taking my kids to daycare (a long time ago). There was a girl up there and we sorta "hit it off " I was unaware that she and her husband were 'swingers'! OMG, when I found out that I was a perfect 'match' for her husband and my husband for her, I ran, FAST! That is not ok with me. I have found my partner and do not want none of yours. It is nice of you to share but not with me, thank you!
Another person I thought was a friend. I worked with her and she was so nice. We didn't hit it off right away but we grew on each other. At work we were inseparable. We called each other on the phone all the time and we made plans to go places that never quite worked out. Then I broke my leg. Lost my job. Had to stay home. Was on strict bed rest. She stopped calling. Stopped messaging me on FB. Then I send her a happy birthday message. She says thanks. I see on a mutual friends page that she had a B-day party and didn't invite me. I am still not sure as to why. I think it may have been because we were not the same race. Everyone there was of a certain Ethnicity. I don't know. I voiced my "M-ness" and was deleted from said page never to be heard from again.
So can you answer the question of the day, week, month, year, century.....Why are friends so freakin' hard to find and then keep?
I have had many of acquaintance but I have only had one real friend (besides Mertis). She was my BEST-FRIEND! Like seriously, we had key chains and everything! I loved her so much. I still do! Her daughter is the best thing since fried chicken! She was an easy friend to make. We met in high school. After I pulled the stunt of getting pregnant and dropping out of school we kinda lost touch for a while. I found her again in my 20's after having my second child and she was pregnant with her first! It was meant to be! Had to be, otherwise we wouldn't have found each other again, right!? Oh I didn't know all of the problems that she had accumulated over the years. I learned to look past them, but they were still there. They will always be there!
I am not sure if you know this or not but I am a bit of a bitch! Always have been!
She was ok with this and my many other problems. Like not feeling I was loved, or needing. My OCD about everything. My husband. My kids and being a mother bear over them. All of my problems.
I guess you could say that I was the bad friend too though. She had her own problems. She wasn't faithful to her husband. I doubt he was to her though. She took pills. Lots of pills. She always had better things to do. She would stand me up constantly for everything, IE: movies, shopping, etc.... <--That is what did it for me finally. I was tired of always clearing my schedule for her and I to go do something only to be forgotten. She wouldn't even call to let me know that she wasn't coming. She just wouldn't show up, wouldn't take my calls or messages. Then later tell me that she was busy and forgot. Really?! So I was done.
Now I am trying to find another friend. It's hard to find someone that will take all of your problems, but that you are ok dealing with theirs to. Let me just say people have problems. Some people only want to be your friend when it is convenient for them. Some want to just use you and then dump you. Some will surprise you.
Case in point. I was taking my kids to daycare (a long time ago). There was a girl up there and we sorta "hit it off " I was unaware that she and her husband were 'swingers'! OMG, when I found out that I was a perfect 'match' for her husband and my husband for her, I ran, FAST! That is not ok with me. I have found my partner and do not want none of yours. It is nice of you to share but not with me, thank you!
Another person I thought was a friend. I worked with her and she was so nice. We didn't hit it off right away but we grew on each other. At work we were inseparable. We called each other on the phone all the time and we made plans to go places that never quite worked out. Then I broke my leg. Lost my job. Had to stay home. Was on strict bed rest. She stopped calling. Stopped messaging me on FB. Then I send her a happy birthday message. She says thanks. I see on a mutual friends page that she had a B-day party and didn't invite me. I am still not sure as to why. I think it may have been because we were not the same race. Everyone there was of a certain Ethnicity. I don't know. I voiced my "M-ness" and was deleted from said page never to be heard from again.
So can you answer the question of the day, week, month, year, century.....Why are friends so freakin' hard to find and then keep?
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Some more...
About Me! You want to know more about me?!
Ok so No one really wants to know more about me but I am Stealing this off of Humble's page because I thought it was cute! If she finds out and is upset over it I will kindly take it down, but come on.......
So here is a little more about me.....
1. Where were you born? Houston, Texas
2. Were you named after someone? I was told that I was names after my Aunt that passed when she was 11 years old...
3. How many children do you have? Two..Bear 14 y/o and Bubba 11 y/o
4. How many pets do you have? 2 Horses, 3 dogs, and 1 cat
5. Your worst injury? My Recently broken leg...OH That was a bitch to overcome..I also 14 years ago went through 27 hours of labor with the eldest...
6. Do you have a special talent? No...not that I know of...I can go from sweet and innocent to your worst nightmare in about 2 seconds flat.
7. Favorite thing to bake? Nothing I hate baking....I love to cook! If it is something that I have never cooked before that is even better!!! (NOT BAKING)
8. Favorite Fast Food? I really like Sonic, but recent events have made it more difficult to have here lately...
9. Would you bungee jump? No! NO! FUCK NO! I DON'T LIKE TO BE HIGH IN THE AIR AND HAVE THE CHANCE OF MY FAT ASS FALLING AND MAKING A BIG BOOM!!!
10. What is the first thing you notice about people? Eyes...Teeth <-- That's funny because my teeth are not perfect and that is one of the first things I notice...
11. When was the last time you cried? Every night! Over my long lost Charlie!!! :(
12. Any current worries? My kids will not grow up to be everything that they dream of ( or that I dream of them being)
13. Name 3 drinks you drink regularly. Coffee, Dr Pepper, Chocolate Milk.
14. What’s your favorite book? I don't have a favorite one. I will read almost anything!
15. Would you like to be a pirate? OMG to be able to say "WALK THEE PLANK MAITY!" Would be epic!
16. Favorite Smells? Fresh cut grass, a clean man, Snuggle (the blue one) Spring!
17. Why do you blog? Mostly to vent. I don't really have any 'girlfriends' because I am a bitch and because once I make a friend I expect it to last forever and I am really dissapointed when something happens and it doesn't...
18. What song do you want played at your funeral? Humm...I have never really thought about. Something off the wall maybe. How about Wild thang for when people are coming in to sit down! <--EPIC! <--(New word) Then just so I know everyone will be crying, Live like you were Dying...
19. What is your least favorite thing about yourself? That I speak my mind ALL THE TIME! I can't seem to keep my mouth shut!
20. Favorite hobby? Well right now it is my garden and I am trying to get some chickens...That is bound to change though, give me a few weeks!
21. Name Something you’ve done, you never thought you would do? Have kids.
22. What do you look for in a friend? Loyalty, Won't stand you up, Will listen and not always think that the world revolves around them, Not a drug user (sorry), There is alo.t How about I blog about it :)
23. Favorite fun things to do? Spend time outside (when it's cool enough) Used to be ride my horses...
24. Pet peeves? Moving anything in my house! Please don't touch my shit! Cussing around small kids that are not yours. Talking on the phone at a resturant. Putting words in my mouth <--Seriously, don't do that! Trying to get me to change my views on Pro-whatever! NO!
25. What’s the last thing that made you laugh? I sure it was something I saw on FB!
Ok So that was a little on me! Hope you enjoyed it!
Ok so No one really wants to know more about me but I am Stealing this off of Humble's page because I thought it was cute! If she finds out and is upset over it I will kindly take it down, but come on.......
So here is a little more about me.....
1. Where were you born? Houston, Texas
2. Were you named after someone? I was told that I was names after my Aunt that passed when she was 11 years old...
3. How many children do you have? Two..Bear 14 y/o and Bubba 11 y/o
4. How many pets do you have? 2 Horses, 3 dogs, and 1 cat
5. Your worst injury? My Recently broken leg...OH That was a bitch to overcome..I also 14 years ago went through 27 hours of labor with the eldest...
6. Do you have a special talent? No...not that I know of...I can go from sweet and innocent to your worst nightmare in about 2 seconds flat.
7. Favorite thing to bake? Nothing I hate baking....I love to cook! If it is something that I have never cooked before that is even better!!! (NOT BAKING)
8. Favorite Fast Food? I really like Sonic, but recent events have made it more difficult to have here lately...
9. Would you bungee jump? No! NO! FUCK NO! I DON'T LIKE TO BE HIGH IN THE AIR AND HAVE THE CHANCE OF MY FAT ASS FALLING AND MAKING A BIG BOOM!!!
10. What is the first thing you notice about people? Eyes...Teeth <-- That's funny because my teeth are not perfect and that is one of the first things I notice...
11. When was the last time you cried? Every night! Over my long lost Charlie!!! :(
12. Any current worries? My kids will not grow up to be everything that they dream of ( or that I dream of them being)
13. Name 3 drinks you drink regularly. Coffee, Dr Pepper, Chocolate Milk.
14. What’s your favorite book? I don't have a favorite one. I will read almost anything!
15. Would you like to be a pirate? OMG to be able to say "WALK THEE PLANK MAITY!" Would be epic!
16. Favorite Smells? Fresh cut grass, a clean man, Snuggle (the blue one) Spring!
17. Why do you blog? Mostly to vent. I don't really have any 'girlfriends' because I am a bitch and because once I make a friend I expect it to last forever and I am really dissapointed when something happens and it doesn't...
18. What song do you want played at your funeral? Humm...I have never really thought about. Something off the wall maybe. How about Wild thang for when people are coming in to sit down! <--EPIC! <--(New word) Then just so I know everyone will be crying, Live like you were Dying...
19. What is your least favorite thing about yourself? That I speak my mind ALL THE TIME! I can't seem to keep my mouth shut!
20. Favorite hobby? Well right now it is my garden and I am trying to get some chickens...That is bound to change though, give me a few weeks!
21. Name Something you’ve done, you never thought you would do? Have kids.
22. What do you look for in a friend? Loyalty, Won't stand you up, Will listen and not always think that the world revolves around them, Not a drug user (sorry), There is alo.t How about I blog about it :)
23. Favorite fun things to do? Spend time outside (when it's cool enough) Used to be ride my horses...
24. Pet peeves? Moving anything in my house! Please don't touch my shit! Cussing around small kids that are not yours. Talking on the phone at a resturant. Putting words in my mouth <--Seriously, don't do that! Trying to get me to change my views on Pro-whatever! NO!
25. What’s the last thing that made you laugh? I sure it was something I saw on FB!
Ok So that was a little on me! Hope you enjoyed it!
Monday, March 4, 2013
FAMILY
Family is a funny thing, isn’t it?
Some love you so much that you feel they are smothering you…
Some could care less if you fell from a bridge a week ago
and they haven’t heard from you!
Mine is a little mixed…
My family could care less about one another is the way I
feel most of the time. Some of that
could be the depression talking but most of it is true. I have a strange family. The last time we were al together my sister
refused to talk to my grandma because she couldn’t fly to Ohio for her
wedding. I on the other hand have started
talking to my whole family again and you really couldn’t even tell. I feel like no one really cares about
me. I feel like if I were to pass away
tomorrow the only ones that would morn my death would be my husband and my
kids. Let me tell you a little bit…..
(NOTICE) THE
FOLLOWING WILL GET ME YELLED AT IF EVER SEEN BY MY MOTHER…
I have always felt like I was not loved. My mother did not tell us she loved us until
I was in my 30’s. My mother blamed me
for her depression after my dad was sent away.
Me, because I couldn’t stand living with my grandpa, and spent most of
my time away from there. She thinks that
I should have spent every waking moment making sure she was ok. I was 14.
I can remember standing at the screen door at maybe age 4 or 5 and
crying because she left for work. I can
remember always feeling that I was adopted and the disappointment in finding
out I wasn’t…ßsad
right? I don’t know why she was like
this. All I do know is I have fought
tooth and nail to NOT be like her!!!
She let her husband kick us
out of our home of 7 years because he needed an office…I didn’t speak to her
for 3 years after that. Then the Charlie
thing happened and I thought “GOD, why did I come back!!!” While I was mad at her my grandma said some
things that she will deny till the day she dies and I missed my Aunt Jackie’s
Funeral…L ß I miss
her!
On the other hand my MIL smothers us. She bought us a house…ßgreat right ‘sigh’…I
wish. She bought it so we could stay next
to her F-O-R-E-V-E-R! J She isn’t so bad (most of the time) ….
I am posting all of this because my sister is Pregnant. She went to find the sex today. She hasn’t called me yet. HER MIL POSTED THE SEX ON FB! I am just a depressed bitch is all. Believe it or not I am not even PMSing! Lol…..
Friday, March 1, 2013
Parenting
So I sit here and I think...What can I tell y'all this week that will just blow you away? Guess what? I have nothing! Nada, Zilch, not a damn thing and I am pissed about that! So because you were so sweet to come and see what type of gibberish I have wrote about this week I will have to improvise...
My parenting style...I am forewarning you that it may disturb you the way I parent...I am blunt with my kids. If I get pissed at them, they will know it because I will be screaming, yelling, cussing, and everything else. Now before you get your panties in a wad let me just say that they stand there and look at me when I am doing this with a smile on their face. They know that I am throwing empty threats, so calm your tits!
I am also very open with them about life. If they ask me a question that makes me uncomfortable, well I just muscle through it and tell it like it really is. Which kinda has back fired on me because they are also very open with me. My daughter quite often tells me shit that I would rather not know, and my son thinks that it is cute to tell me how many 'hairs' he has down there! AAHHHHHHH!!!!! I really don't need to know that.I think I am a good parent. If you tell me any different I will hurt you. I am the type of parent that my MIL calls a 'momma bear' because if you mess with my babies I WILL HURT YOU! Seriously. I don't play like that...Those are my kids and I will protect them with everything in me. My kids are the main reason me and the MIL fight. She doesn't think that I should protect them as much as I do. She thinks that she should be able to come out and tell them what to do with me sitting there. PFFT......
I don't let my kids go anywhere unless I do a child predator check first in that area. If by chance (this has happened) I arrive at the house and I don't like the way it looks. Be prepared to be royally embarrassed because I will leave! Bear, the whole way home says "OMG MOM YOU HAVE RUINED MY LIFE FOREVER!!!" Have I ruined you life because I think I may have just made it to where my daughter will graduate and do great in life...Bear has 2 good friends...That being said, they are a year younger than her(she was held back) and both of them are on birth control! It isn't because they need to regulate their periods...NO it is because they are having sex, REGULARLY!!!! Hello, good momma, right here! My child is not having sex yet, WHEW! Oh how do I know you ask? Because she can't go anywhere! That and I know that she would tell me or her dad <again we are an open family)...Her one friend's parents will bring her over to see her boyfriend, who lives one street over from us, but won't bring her here. Strange right?! Makes me think that they want her to have sex.
Her youngest would get onto the counter tops and pull out all of the dishes from the cabinet. Good thing they were plastic. I can't parent like that....
I guess you could say that I am an average parent, but I am sure that if I wasn't 17 when I had my first and I had waited until late 20's or so I would have been superb! Yeah probably not, but hey!
What is your style of parenting?
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
My Favorite Porn-Star
So I have a question for all of you...Do you have a old friend that it is just best that you two stay away from each other?
I do....I miss her......a lot.......A LOT!
I am not allowed to talk to her because she is bad for me.
I have known her for 20 or so years....I was there for her during her divorce and the birth of her first child....
She was there for me when my dad left.....the birth of my first child.....the maid of honor at my wedding to my husband...
And so much more....we have had wild and crazy nights and we have had heart to heart moments....I miss her....
She is not good for me.....she has grown up to be someone that doesn't have respect for me anymore....she stands me up.....puts me down......and she has had a problem with drugs and such in the not so recent past....
God I really miss her though, even if she does all that to me! I miss having someone to talk to about all kinds of stuff...that is why I started to blog....I wish we had never fallen apart.......I wish she would have never done the stuff she has done....how many do-overs do you give one person?
She will always be my Porn-star! I will always love her! And I will miss her terribly forever!
I do....I miss her......a lot.......A LOT!
I am not allowed to talk to her because she is bad for me.
I have known her for 20 or so years....I was there for her during her divorce and the birth of her first child....
She was there for me when my dad left.....the birth of my first child.....the maid of honor at my wedding to my husband...
And so much more....we have had wild and crazy nights and we have had heart to heart moments....I miss her....
She is not good for me.....she has grown up to be someone that doesn't have respect for me anymore....she stands me up.....puts me down......and she has had a problem with drugs and such in the not so recent past....
God I really miss her though, even if she does all that to me! I miss having someone to talk to about all kinds of stuff...that is why I started to blog....I wish we had never fallen apart.......I wish she would have never done the stuff she has done....how many do-overs do you give one person?
She will always be my Porn-star! I will always love her! And I will miss her terribly forever!
Teabags?
OK so lets start off by saying I am a mom, I have been for a little over 14 years. Now lets move on to this story....Grab a tissue it's a good one...
I am in the kitchen on Monday washing dishes (yes I wash dishes alot) and I have Bear(14) put on some water for a pitcher of sweet tea. When the water starts to boil I say "Go and get the teabags....(My son (10) explodes in laughter).....What the hell is so funny?"
He tells me "Nothing!" :/ "Really? Then why are you laughing?" "I don't know!"
OK so I am like HUMMMM.........whatever kids are weird...... So I continue "Bear go and get the teabags.........( AGAIN IT HAPPENS).....What the hell Bubba?!"
(CONTINUES DIEING LAUGHING-He is literally crying he is laughing so hard)...."Bear put them in the pot..."
Now I am still asking what is so funny buy the word Teabag? Which then gets laughter not only from the boy but now Bear is laughing!! WTF is so damn funny???!!!
I go into the bedroom so I can ask Mert. "Mert do you think it is funny when I say 'teabag'?" "no" "They (points to living room) won't stop laughing!" "Well they are :/ (don't like this word) stupid"
I say "UGH" and walk out.
TEA'S DONE!!
"Bear get me the bag of ice so I can fill up the pitcher." She gets the ice and says nonchalantly "You want me to bang it on the ground?" OMG!!! You would have thought that that saying was the funniest thing on the planet! He (bubba) has fallen off of the couch by now and is rolling laughing!!
OK so I get that one, and unless your mind is already in the gutter you wouldn't find that funny, but guess what, his mind is there!
So I have had it at this point and I tell them "Spill it! What is so funny about the word 'teabag'? tell me NOW!" (I don't like my kids knowing something that I don't know)
Well they don't tell me they show me.....(their version).......Bear sits on the floor and bubba takes her head and pulls it towards his (UM YEA)! OMG! STOP THAT!! WTF!!
They are dieing and I am freaking out! I am told later by LOLO that is not what it means but hey let them believe that!
I looked it up! I don't want to do that!!! EVER!!!
ok Hope you enjoyed my unconfortable moment with my kids :)
He tells me "Nothing!" :/ "Really? Then why are you laughing?" "I don't know!"
OK so I am like HUMMMM.........whatever kids are weird...... So I continue "Bear go and get the teabags.........( AGAIN IT HAPPENS).....What the hell Bubba?!"
(CONTINUES DIEING LAUGHING-He is literally crying he is laughing so hard)...."Bear put them in the pot..."
Now I am still asking what is so funny buy the word Teabag? Which then gets laughter not only from the boy but now Bear is laughing!! WTF is so damn funny???!!!
I go into the bedroom so I can ask Mert. "Mert do you think it is funny when I say 'teabag'?" "no" "They (points to living room) won't stop laughing!" "Well they are :/ (don't like this word) stupid"
I say "UGH" and walk out.
TEA'S DONE!!
"Bear get me the bag of ice so I can fill up the pitcher." She gets the ice and says nonchalantly "You want me to bang it on the ground?" OMG!!! You would have thought that that saying was the funniest thing on the planet! He (bubba) has fallen off of the couch by now and is rolling laughing!!
OK so I get that one, and unless your mind is already in the gutter you wouldn't find that funny, but guess what, his mind is there! So I have had it at this point and I tell them "Spill it! What is so funny about the word 'teabag'? tell me NOW!" (I don't like my kids knowing something that I don't know)
Well they don't tell me they show me.....(their version).......Bear sits on the floor and bubba takes her head and pulls it towards his (UM YEA)! OMG! STOP THAT!! WTF!!
They are dieing and I am freaking out! I am told later by LOLO that is not what it means but hey let them believe that!
I looked it up! I don't want to do that!!! EVER!!!
teabagging | ||
An adult act performed by consenting republican/conservatives on each other to express their fake outrage to imaginary tax increases (most of these idiots actually just got a tax break)
During this act one republican/conservative nut job (pun intended) drops his pants in public and slowly lowers his scrotum into the eager mouth of another right wing nut lover. Some basic Teabagging participation rules 1: Participants have to be very low income (preferably on welfare) 2: Participants have to be avid Fox News watchers (this makes certain the participants are brainwashed to the extent of being borderline retarded) 3: Participants have to be republican/conservative
On 04/15/09 (Tax Day) broke ass republicans throughout the country gathered in public and performed mass teabagging on each other for hours while complaining about some imaginary tax increases
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ok Hope you enjoyed my unconfortable moment with my kids :)
Monday, February 11, 2013
Am I wrong?
Hey, I missed y'all! How are my people!? All 1 of you HAHAHA!!!
Yea, OK we need to catch up a little...
I told you about the crazy horse girl down the street last time? Well she struck again! Yep! I had to feed this morning, and I text her to let her know that I was feeding. I texted her again to let her know that I was there and ready to feed. I called and let her know that I wanted to feed before the storm, that I could see coming, started; and that I was going to feed my horses in 5 minutes if she didn't hurry. She never showed up! EVER!!! Let me back up to Friday....
Mert and I fought. He got pissed at me for something, whatever. So he left to go and get him something to eat at around 6:30ish. He gets back around 8ish and asks me if Erin had called (BTW that is crazy horse girl) Nope, she didn't, why? He tells me that he just saw them all leave with both trucks both trailers and all 4 of the 4-wheelers. Huh, that's odd......
About 15-20 minutes later we get the following from Crazy horse girl..."Hey we r going be gone for the weekend garage door is unlock just lift up" word for word....
WTF!!! I am not your animals keeper!!!!
We had been feeding her horses because they are in the same pasture as mine and I didn't think it would be fair to feed mine and not hers, when she isn't here. That being said, they have been at his mom's house for the last week and don't come out to feed still. So they assumed that we had nothing to do this weekend (which we didn't but still) and they TOLD us to basically feed their horses! Sorry, who in the fuck do you think that you are talking too?!?!?!? I don't get paid to babysit your animals!
So that being said, that is why I did what I did this morning, and didn't feed her horses. At that time because she would not answer me I didn't know if she was at his mom's or not. It is not my job to keep track of her horses and vice versa. She informed my 14 year old daughter yesterday that she was not going to allow her horses to eat the hay that we buy anymore. Oh, really, OK, well I think you may have a problem because I will make sure that my horses have hay and you will pay me if you keep your horses in there, they will be eating that hay unless you sit next to it day and night to guard it. FUCKING DUMB ASS!!! I believe that I am doing the right thing by not letting her take advantage of me and my husbands generosity. Am I wrong?
Yea, OK we need to catch up a little...
I told you about the crazy horse girl down the street last time? Well she struck again! Yep! I had to feed this morning, and I text her to let her know that I was feeding. I texted her again to let her know that I was there and ready to feed. I called and let her know that I wanted to feed before the storm, that I could see coming, started; and that I was going to feed my horses in 5 minutes if she didn't hurry. She never showed up! EVER!!! Let me back up to Friday....
Mert and I fought. He got pissed at me for something, whatever. So he left to go and get him something to eat at around 6:30ish. He gets back around 8ish and asks me if Erin had called (BTW that is crazy horse girl) Nope, she didn't, why? He tells me that he just saw them all leave with both trucks both trailers and all 4 of the 4-wheelers. Huh, that's odd......
About 15-20 minutes later we get the following from Crazy horse girl..."Hey we r going be gone for the weekend garage door is unlock just lift up" word for word....
WTF!!! I am not your animals keeper!!!!
We had been feeding her horses because they are in the same pasture as mine and I didn't think it would be fair to feed mine and not hers, when she isn't here. That being said, they have been at his mom's house for the last week and don't come out to feed still. So they assumed that we had nothing to do this weekend (which we didn't but still) and they TOLD us to basically feed their horses! Sorry, who in the fuck do you think that you are talking too?!?!?!? I don't get paid to babysit your animals!
So that being said, that is why I did what I did this morning, and didn't feed her horses. At that time because she would not answer me I didn't know if she was at his mom's or not. It is not my job to keep track of her horses and vice versa. She informed my 14 year old daughter yesterday that she was not going to allow her horses to eat the hay that we buy anymore. Oh, really, OK, well I think you may have a problem because I will make sure that my horses have hay and you will pay me if you keep your horses in there, they will be eating that hay unless you sit next to it day and night to guard it. FUCKING DUMB ASS!!! I believe that I am doing the right thing by not letting her take advantage of me and my husbands generosity. Am I wrong?
Friday, January 25, 2013
To Be (sick) or not to be!
Ok, so, lets just start off by saying I have been sick. I layed in bed all day yesterday sleeping sick, and I only tell you this because if you didn't know that I had been sick well the following would make no sense.
My House is a disaster!
I just cleaned it Wednesday! Seriously! Like it was not just an, oh sure come and look at my living room but don't go anywhere else clean, No! It was, Oh the president wants to come to my house? Sure let me give you the grand tour, clean! Sadly it is back to its old ways! I believe that I may have a ghost! I can clean the house and wake up the next morning and nobody know what happened! Case in point!
'Who left this half a glass of milk on the counter over night?!'
'not me'
'wasn't me either mom'
'I didn't have milk'!
Oh, Really? it wasn't any of you? REALLY?! Ok, well that seems Legit! GHOST! So we call him Marvin. So now I say
'Oh none of you left it out'
'Well it must have been Marvin'
Onto other news....Honestly there isn't other news.....Oh there is! Me and the MIL are talking, AGAIN! The BIL or the SIL still haven't tried and Honestly I don't know if I want to speak with them. I know you are going WTF is she talking about! Ok well I guess I will recap.
Me and the in laws, specifically the MIL, BIL, and SIL get into arguments quite often about random stuff. The last one was about my daughter and a blog that I had up but is now taken down. My MIL was very rude to my daughter one day. I blogged about it and was hit with a brick, not literally but by email. Now if you have read all of my blogs you will notice that I don't use names so if I did mention you in one of my blogs it isn't like anyone will know that I am speaking about you. They asked me not to "pull them into our fights" and then blocked me from their Face book pages! I didn't say your Name **** ****! Even if I had come on it isn't like anyone reads this anyways, right! So just to say they haven't spoken to me since before Memorial day last year! WOOHOO!!! Like I could care! I do have to say though I have been losing less hair now!
Sorry I am a little spazzy, I jump around alot! Try and keep up it might get interesting!
Back to the house....I am going on strike! I am playing sick now...maybe for the rest of the week, I don't know yet. I just don't think that if I clean all day on one day you should be able to destroy it on another!
Ok well stay out of trouble and don't let the Zombies get you! Peace out!
My House is a disaster!
I just cleaned it Wednesday! Seriously! Like it was not just an, oh sure come and look at my living room but don't go anywhere else clean, No! It was, Oh the president wants to come to my house? Sure let me give you the grand tour, clean! Sadly it is back to its old ways! I believe that I may have a ghost! I can clean the house and wake up the next morning and nobody know what happened! Case in point!
'Who left this half a glass of milk on the counter over night?!'
'not me'
'wasn't me either mom'
'I didn't have milk'!
Oh, Really? it wasn't any of you? REALLY?! Ok, well that seems Legit! GHOST! So we call him Marvin. So now I say
'Oh none of you left it out'
'Well it must have been Marvin'
Onto other news....Honestly there isn't other news.....Oh there is! Me and the MIL are talking, AGAIN! The BIL or the SIL still haven't tried and Honestly I don't know if I want to speak with them. I know you are going WTF is she talking about! Ok well I guess I will recap.
Me and the in laws, specifically the MIL, BIL, and SIL get into arguments quite often about random stuff. The last one was about my daughter and a blog that I had up but is now taken down. My MIL was very rude to my daughter one day. I blogged about it and was hit with a brick, not literally but by email. Now if you have read all of my blogs you will notice that I don't use names so if I did mention you in one of my blogs it isn't like anyone will know that I am speaking about you. They asked me not to "pull them into our fights" and then blocked me from their Face book pages! I didn't say your Name **** ****! Even if I had come on it isn't like anyone reads this anyways, right! So just to say they haven't spoken to me since before Memorial day last year! WOOHOO!!! Like I could care! I do have to say though I have been losing less hair now!
Sorry I am a little spazzy, I jump around alot! Try and keep up it might get interesting!
Back to the house....I am going on strike! I am playing sick now...maybe for the rest of the week, I don't know yet. I just don't think that if I clean all day on one day you should be able to destroy it on another!
Ok well stay out of trouble and don't let the Zombies get you! Peace out!
Friday, January 18, 2013
Kids
Oh hey, I decided that instead of washing clothes or cleaning my house I would sit on my ass and write to all of you out there in www land.
So let me just say that I am thinking about getting my daughter a Chasity belt. She, as far as I know, isn't having sex yet, but I would rather do that now than raise my daughter baby while she finishes high school and college. There will be some judging me saying "Well if you do this or do that your just telling her it is ok as long as________" No that is not what I am doing at all. I am simply taking in the fact that children, and that is what they are until oh I don't know like 25, most likely won't stop in the middle of fondling each other to say "Hey do you have a condom?" Oh how do I know that you ask? Well because I have been that child in the middle of doing my thing that went straight from the rubbing and touching to the sex and a condom never crossed my mind. Hence why I had a baby when I was 17 and dropped out of high school! Come on get real, I mean seriously, how many times during high school did you have sex? Ok now how many of those times did you stop right before and say hummm...maybe we should stop right here and put on protection. Yeah not very many! All I am saying is wouldn't you rather have your daughter or boyfriends girlfriend on some type of birth control so you are 99.999% sure that you won't have a grandchild until they are happily married and living on their own and supporting themselves? I know I sure as hell would. I think it would be great when they finally figure out how to do a BC for guys too that way it will be 100% effective for both parties involved in the sex! How great that would be. Then it wouldn't be the babies and diseases that we would have to worry about, just the diseases. Yep that would be great!
Ok I will step down from my soap box for today!
So let me just say that I am thinking about getting my daughter a Chasity belt. She, as far as I know, isn't having sex yet, but I would rather do that now than raise my daughter baby while she finishes high school and college. There will be some judging me saying "Well if you do this or do that your just telling her it is ok as long as________" No that is not what I am doing at all. I am simply taking in the fact that children, and that is what they are until oh I don't know like 25, most likely won't stop in the middle of fondling each other to say "Hey do you have a condom?" Oh how do I know that you ask? Well because I have been that child in the middle of doing my thing that went straight from the rubbing and touching to the sex and a condom never crossed my mind. Hence why I had a baby when I was 17 and dropped out of high school! Come on get real, I mean seriously, how many times during high school did you have sex? Ok now how many of those times did you stop right before and say hummm...maybe we should stop right here and put on protection. Yeah not very many! All I am saying is wouldn't you rather have your daughter or boyfriends girlfriend on some type of birth control so you are 99.999% sure that you won't have a grandchild until they are happily married and living on their own and supporting themselves? I know I sure as hell would. I think it would be great when they finally figure out how to do a BC for guys too that way it will be 100% effective for both parties involved in the sex! How great that would be. Then it wouldn't be the babies and diseases that we would have to worry about, just the diseases. Yep that would be great!
Ok I will step down from my soap box for today!
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